Of course if you aren’t trustworthy—if you judge them, or talk to others about what they tell you, or interrupt, get impatient, or misunderstand them, then it is better for them to talk to someone who can really listen without any of this.Being a reliable, trustworthy, patient, nonjudgmental listener is the best thing you can do in most cases with someone who is depressed.Nonjudgmental listening is still essential but may need to be combined with some firm boundary-setting and professional treatment for the addiction. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below.Good is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, medical treatment, or therapy.A couple of caveats: I am talking about adults—children and teens require some variations. Lubow, MS, MFT, therapist in El Cerrito, California The preceding article was solely written by the author named above.Also, addictions cloud the picture of depression and require their own, very different intervention. Any views and opinions expressed are not necessarily shared by Good
The rest of the time they were acting like someone who wasn’t in pain.They plan to do it, anticipate doing it—these phases excite them and elevate their mood temporarily.Then they use whatever they are addicted to and it boosts their mood.Still others are addicted to something, and the depression is obscured by the addiction.People with addictions spend most of their time and energy relating to the addiction.