Dating is spending time with someone alone, not necessarily with the end goal of marriage.“Courtship is really waiting for the one God has for you and praying through the whole process,” the father of 19 says.As Michelle pointed out, “love is in the air” in the Duggar household this spring.
Rule 2: Three (or four, or 15) is NOT a crowd: There’s always a chaperone.“The brothers can see how they treat mom and dad, or see whether they show the sisters respect,” Michelle says, adding that each brother has given Jessa their opinion of Ben. For the most part, Jim Bob and Michelle don’t chime in. Jim Bob describes a text where Jessa was asking Ben to call her on the phone and wrote: “Give me a ring when you get time.” At that point, dad texted back: “No rings yet.” (Jim Bob says he added a smiley face at the end.) The couple is allowed to talk on the phone privately for an hour each night. The Duggars ask their daughters and their beaus to set their own boundaries on the physical side, and to share those boundaries with them.In Jessa and Ben’s case, the couple decided to give each other hugs when they are greeting or saying goodbye, or posing for a picture.“But they have committed to waiting for the first kiss till marriage,” Jim Bob says.They will also wait until they are engaged before they hold hands.