There have been another 200 inquiries from around the world.VIP member “Chanie S,” 34, lists her dating status as “married and miserable” and complains about her husband’s “hit and runs” in the bedroom. One 31-year-old male lists “oh those hose” and hot Orthodox ladies as his turn-ons. “Of course they are ALREADY putting pressure on this site,” Jerry said in an e-mail.In truth, most infidelity occurs not because it is planned, but because people find themselves in situations where their emotions completely overwhelm (and even surprise) them.While people trapped in troubled marriages are more vulnerable to infidelity, I've discovered that a surprising number of people in seemingly solid relationships also respond to the novelty of new love and end up getting swept away by an affair.If you find yourself having sexual or romantic fantasies about your friend, you've crossed the line into emotional sex.You may argue you're just Facebook friends, or you're just innocently flirting and it means nothing.
Any contact with the person becomes as potent as a drug addiction.Letting go of such intoxicating nourishment seems unimaginable.Before you are tempted to do something risky -- like leave your stable, good relationship for your exciting emotional lover -- it's important to examine what's really going on. There's a huge difference between a platonic friendship and a friendship that has crossed the line into the emotional sex danger zone. Friendship becomes emotional sex when the feel-good brain chemicals and hormones that are released when even thinking about that person take over. But you are having emotional sex, and that can be even more intense, sensual and all-consuming than physical sex. Emotional sex is a friendship that escalates into something that feels the same as romantic love and can manifest itself in numerous ways -- physically, romantically, emotionally, lustfully, verbally, or virtually.